The Comeback

Just like Whitney, Mariah and Britney – I’ve had a lot of hits in my life – and just like Whitney, Mariah and Britney I’ve staged one or two highly manufactured but phenomenal comebacks.

Wikipedia: The word “comeback” describes the process whereby a public figure or entertainer returns to popularity after a period of decline. The term is predominately used in politics, sports, and entertainment, but can be applied to other areas of culture.

Now, I’m here to tell you that combacks are definitely NOT exclusive to politics, sports and entertainment – comebacks are for anyone who feels like they’ve hit a bit of a low.

I was introduced to the comback by a girl I was friends with about 10 years ago, her name was Priya (Priyanka to be exact) and she was a sassy, sexy, fabulous Indian girl who was bucking her culture in every way – she moved to NY and we lost contact but I will never forget her – she taught me how to stage a comeback.

For most of my life I’ve been very focussed on ‘the outside’ – I think I’ve actually used the way I look to overcome a lot of emtional stuff – I’ve really lived by a ‘look good, feel good’ kind of ethos. But I have learnt having ‘look good’ as a singular way to feel good falls short of the mark, it has merit but it’s shallow, it’s a bandaid. Don’t get me wrong, I ‘m still a massive fan of the ‘look good, feel good’ method – it got me though some really tough times.

After an emotional hit, you just wanna stay in bed, put your head under the covers and block out the world … and mostly you do just that, but eventually you have to snap the fuck out of it. So what’s the best thing you can do? throw on an outfit, put on some make up, do your hair – you ‘fake it til you make it’. What does that mean exactly? You make yourself feel good on the surface until your emotions catch up – time heals n all that.

I’ve been working on the inside with a Therapist for around 6 years now and I think the first 4 years were really about understanding how I got to where I was and how to deal with the day to day shit that just kept happening on a frighteningly regular basis.  About a year ago though, some stuff changed and everything  just calmed down, my life took on a ‘normality’ that I hadn’t really experienced for over 20 years.

So what did I do with this new found normality? Well I guess it gave me the opportunity to stand in front of the lifestyle mirror – take a long hard look at myself … and identify some things that I really didn’t like, things that just wouldn’t carry me through to the next phase of my life.

So here I am, feeling calmer, more together and more balanced and than I ever have –  the only thing is I’ve been much less focused on my appearance  … and due to the fact that I have been feeling less and less satisfied with the way I look over the last 6 months, I decided it’s time for an overhaul – a reinvention of sorts.

That’s where the comback fits in …. for a truly authentic comeback there must be date, a plan and a night out. Here I go, setting a date … 3 months is usually a good timeframe to make some changes … so …. 5^thNovember.  Also this time, I’m gonna do something I’ve not done before with a comeback, to make it a bit more interesting I’m going to align it with my next internet dating attempt (binge).

OK, so the date is locked and loaded … now I have to write the plan – which is really just a list … but I need a few days to work on it, so stay tuned …

Best Combacks EVER

• Mariah Carey
• Raybans
• Mickey Rourke
• Britney Spears
• John Travolta
• Robert Downey Jnr
• Rob Lowe
• Kylie Minogue